Monday, February 4, 2013

The Power of the Words You Speak

Few people will take parenting advice from the mother of one 3 month old- however, most would listen to a seasoned mom of six.

One of the most valuable lessons I learned from my mom is the power of life & death in the words we speak over our children. 
I shutter every time I hear a parent/caretaker call a child a brat. A mistake. A nuisance. Spoiled. 


The words you speak over your child becomes their inner voice.

If you call your child a brat they will believe you. & they will emulate that. 


Growing up, if I called my brother stupid I had to “take it back” and replace the word; for example, “Mike, you aren’t stupid, you are smart.”
As silly as it seems, it taught us the power of our words over others. It taught us not to believe the negative lies that we’re thrown our way when we got older. 


If you are fond of name calling then try telling your child they are acting like a brat but not that they are a brat.

Adding two simple words can make
a difference in who they believe they are.

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  2. That is a great point, Krisann. Something to add to that when a child starts to cry and throw a fit. Try not to tell them to stop crying instead ask them if they want to cry about it or talk about it. I do this with Logen and he always says talk about it, we then talk about what is going on and why he is so upset. He doesn't through huge fits and he calms down very quickly. Something else I have noticed is that he is getting really great at solving problems.

    The reason you don't want to say stop crying is because many children do not understand that you are asking them to calm down to help but it makes them feel that you don't care about what is upsetting them. Doing this with Logen (5 years old)has been really great for him, he is problem solving, he talks to me, our relationship is wonderful, and when I cry for some reason (like watching a chick flick) he ask me, "Mom you want to talk about it."

    I can see and read that you are an amazing mother. Keep up the good work.

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